Thursday, September 22, 2005

Praying for Silence

Anne Heche wants everyone to know that it wasn't the power of prayer that made her go straight. The actress is lashing out at her mother for using her name to promote Christian ex-gay events.

Heche's mother, Nancy Heche, is speaking at a conference held by the Christian group Focus on the Family, which preaches that homosexuality is preventable and treatable. She is billed as "a single parent who experienced the international media rush during her daughter Anne Heche's highly visible relationship with Ellen DeGeneres."

Though Nancy claims the power of prayer led her daughter to abandon her lesbian relationship and marry a man, Anne says she and the talk-show host parted ways because they wanted "different things for our lives."

Following is taken from ANNE'S WEBSITE:

To Whom It May Concern:

This post is meant to address a couple of questions some people have about my mother, Ellen and me. I realize that the break up with Ellen made a lot of people feel many things, but hopefully this will help you have more of an understanding of it.

Ellen and I had a three and a half year relationship that ended sadly, not because we were both women, but because we both wanted different things for our lives.

This NONSENSE about my mother praying for me is really making me angry. My mother never approved of my relationship with Ellen. Her hatred for our relationship is one of the many things that ultimately led to my breaking off all communication with her. (My mother, that is, not Ellen.)

The "Ex-gay" events that are going on right now make me sick. The fact that my mother is using my name to promote this movement makes me even sicker. I could not disagree more adamanty with what she and her group of unloving, unaccepting, Bible preaching hate mongers are doing.

I do not believe that homosexuality is something that should be brainwashed out of someone. I do not believe that homosexuality should be anything but celebrated if that is the thing that makes an individual feel good about their life. I believe, as I have always said, that people should love who they want to love. And for anyone who ever thought that Ellen and I broke it off becuase of sexuality, you couldn't be more mistaken.

And for anyone who thought my mother's prayers had anything to do with me marrying a man, forget it. I can safely say that my mother has nothing to do with any decision I make. It has always disturbed me the way religion can twist something to make people feel badly about themselves. Isn't a loving heart an accepting, caring heart?

Certainly my mother has never been "loving." But that's just my humble opinion.


Bougie Black Boy said...

It's not an issue of whether she is gay or straight. That's the problem that too many people focus on, even Heche.

The issue should rather be--at this point in her life she is in love with a man; at that point in her life she was in love with a woman.


Awww.... I am going to have to start loving Anne Heche again!

Ruben said...

I say we tie Anne Heche's mom to the back of a pickup truck and drag the bitch. Wow! That was harsh huh?

CrackerLilo said...

I am so proud of my bi sister Anne Heche, and I NEVER thought I'd be writing that again!!!

Thanks for sharing this. I'm glad Anne stuck up for herself. I hate the way people have been using her, including her own mother!

CrackerLilo said...

The nice guys at confirmed that it's for real, so I wrote this into her guestbook.

I'm bi, and I have felt so bad about the way people interpret your romantic life to suit their own agenda. It makes me really upset for you that your own mother had to do that to you as well. I hope every hotel room she stays at for "Love" Won Out is roach-infested with itchy sheets; I hope the money she earns by misusing your name and public image burns in her hands. This is not how a loving mother or grandmother should act.

Thank you for speaking up for yourself and letting the LGBT community know you have not turned your back on us, no matter what some people within it may say. And congratulations on being able to have real love in your life, despite being raised by people who clearly don't know the meaning of it.

If my arms could reach, I would hug you.

Blessed be,